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Baby knows best
Really. I just have to follow my son's cues for feeding, sleeping, playing, and life becomes so much easier. Force feeding causes spit ups. I end up with sore arm muscles and a grumpy face if I keep rocking him when he is not ready to sleep. So keep your eyes and ears open, and learn to gauge their moods.

Is hubby deaf?
Yup. It has really stumped me as to how he could sleep through a newborn's incessant crying at night. But the male species can. And that is the feedback that I got from a few other mom's too. So unless you have a pre-nup that says your hubby has to help with night time feedings and crankiness and diaper changes, forget about it! You are on your own, sister.

Breastfeeding ain't easy
Books say that a newborn can be placed on a mom's tummy and that it will crawl right up and start suckling for milk. Are you kidding?? No doubt, some babies are natural. Most are not. You have to pay a lot of attention to holding him right, getting him to latch right and a hundred other things for bfing to work. So for mommies committed to bfing or are willing to give it a try, wait atleast 6 weeks to work out the kinks before you decide to call it quits. If it works out, it's awesome. I totally enjoy nursing Kavin. Holding those cute, little hands, listening to his small talk and watching him smile at me when feeding is so special.

http://www.kellymom.com/bf/ has some great information.

Mommies are the primary caregiver
Of course, your mom is around to help. Sometimes hubby too. But at the end of the day, it is your responsibility to take care of your baby. Everybody has their own life and will get back to it after the initial months or the initial thrill of having a baby in the family subsides. It can be overwhelming and tiring to get through the day without help. Just accept your responsibility and don't let negative emotions get the better of you. I just keep thinking that my baby is going to be so small only for so long. So cuddle him and bathe him and rock him and feed him before he outgrows it all!